How I came to believe that I could earn a $10,000 a month

Many years ago, I had a conversation with my brother in which I asked him to imagine what it would feel like to earn $10,000 a month.  I could see the expression on his face change as he tried to imagine the scenario.  He struggled mightily.  After a few moments of quiet and discomfort, he finally admitted that it was nearly impossible for him to imagine earning this much money a month.

Recently, I asked a few of my friends the same question.  Everyone I ask has difficulty picturing themselves earning this type of income.  I did too....at one point.  Whenever I tried to imagine the scenario, my mind drew a blank.  That's when I realized that this was a huge part of the problem.  My mind kept shutting down because it didn't believe in such a scenario actually becoming a reality.

As long as my mind couldn't picture it, I knew I would never experience it.

Every single goal we desire is something we don't yet have.  Some of them are more believable than others.  You might notice that the more believable they are, the easier it is to manifest.  Manifesting a parking space is "easier" than manifesting $1,000.  Why, because we can easily picture stumbling on the perfect parking space at the right time.  But when we think about where $1,000 will come from, we can't imagine it.  Or when we think about launching a six-figure business, we hesitate.

When our minds accept our goals as achievable, the road to get there becomes so much easier.

Although I didn't exactly know how to earn $10,000 a month, I was certain that I had to become very comfortable with the idea.

My first instinct was to look for people who had reached that level income.  I didn't know anyone in real life. Luckily for us, there are tons of examples online.  If your goal is to start a business, get out of debt, or travel the world, surround yourself with people who have gone through the same journey.

When I decided to quit my job a couple of years ago, I had such a hard time making the decision.  Quitting my comfy job was the scariest thing I had ever imagined doing.  I couldn't bring myself to do it until I dedicated hours of my time reading about and listening to stories of countless individuals who left their jobs to pursue their dreams.  By the time I sat in my boss' office to inform her of the news, I was 100% certain of my decision.  I went from being afraid to leave my job to giving my resignation with a huge smile on my face.

I've implemented the same strategy to convince my mind to believe in earning over $10,000 a month. It's a gradual process so I'm patient with myself.  I understand that resistance will rear its ugly head but I push through until the idea of earning that amount of money is not only believable but actually expected.  Once my belief got to the right level, taking the right action was so much easier.

When I think about the other goals I want to reach, before I even come up with a plan of action, I start working on ways to increase how much I believe this can actually happen.  I need to enlist the help of my mind power.  Otherwise, the right ideas (and action) don't flow.

My challenge for you is this:  play around with the idea of actually living out your goal versus admiring it from afar.  Get so familiar with it that it actually feels real.  Sometimes we idolize our goals so much that we are actually separating ourselves from it.  Stop seeing yourself as separate from your goal and start believing.  




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The Truth About Caring For 4C Natural Hair And Achieving Your Hair Goals

Contents What is 4C hair 4C hair wash day Protective styling Choosing products As I get older one of the things that hold true in my life is that there are no shortcuts when you want to be successful at any goal you might have. In my own hair journey, and I am sure in […]

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This Simple At-Home Treatment Will Remove Your Stretch Marks & Body Scars

The other day I was watching one of my favorite reality shows.  There was a scene where two of the main characters enjoyed a day of beauty treatments.  Instead of enjoying a leisurely massage, they opted for a more aggressive option.

While laying face down, the two women endured a full body micro needling treatment. By the time the session was over, their entire bodies were red with all the blood flow.  My first instinct was to cringe at how much pain they had to endure.  Then I wondered why they would even do micro needling over their entire bodies.
Honestly, it doesn't really make sense.  While needling the entire body probably is inefficient, I could see using micro needling in a targeted way to address concerns on the body.   Scar tissue is stubborn and rigid.  You can just get rid of it with topical treatments.  We develop scars because of trauma to the skin and the subsequent healing process.  The problem is that scars aren't made up of the same tissue as our skin. Scar tissue is inferior to our normal skin because it's composition is a bit different.  It's not meant to function like "normal skin," it's meant to protect against infection and further injury.

But, with "very minor lesions,"  the body uses normal skin for wound repair.  And that's the magic of micro needling.  It creates lots of micro trauma forcing it to have to repair itself with new skin as if nothing ever happened.  With scar treatments, fading isn't the right approach. We should want to regenerate the skin and that's exactly what micro needling does.

I have one of the nifty little at home derma rollers.  But I haven't put them to use ever since I started going in for professional treatments.  After watching those ladies receive the body rolling, I could see myself using the at home device for some trouble areas like the horizontal lines around my neck and to diminish old scars.

Other ways to incorporate body needling included fading of stretch marks and for skin tightening purposes.  If you have excessive stretch marks from having a baby or rapid weight loss/gain, micro needling might be a low cost easy option that actually works.


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Style Edit // Summer Festival Lookbook

Coachella is currently in progress which means the start of spring/summer outdoor season.  I figured now would be a great time to collect some style inspiration for festival outfits ideas.

I adore this black crochet top.  It's stylish, sexy and effortless.  It also gives you the option of accenting the top with either a lace bralette, bandeau or a fitted crop depending on your preference.  I didn't know how much I needed a crochet top until now.  The hunt is officially on.

Chances are you're probably gonna be rocking basic pieces to your outdoor event.  The easiest way to make your look stand out is to accessorize with a statement kimono.  I'm a huge fan of kimonos because they have the ability to completely elevate your summer look without adding heavy layers.

For most of my life, I've been completely against matching sets.  I hated them.  But I've since changed my ways.  I adore the cropped top and matching high-waisted pants.  It makes the entire look more modern and fresh.  The slight bearing of midriff adds a bit of a break to the monotonous pattern.  I'm sure it would look just as perfect if the bottom were high waisted shorts.  Either way, I'm a fan of matching sets now and I'm proud of it.

Summer festivals are the perfect time to wear bohemian statement skirts.  I love this pairing of a flirty denim skirt with a graphic tee.  It's simple yet flawless.  Can we talk about how brilliant it was for her to accessorize with a brightly colored head wrap?  This look couldn't be any more perfect.

I wanted to leave you with this cute idea on how to accessorize your hair this summer.  Try adding strips of fabric in your braids for care free look.  This is a much tamer alternative to dying your hair or doing anything too crazy.  It's non-permanent and really easy to pull off.

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Using The Power of Your Mind to Create the Perfect Ending for you Life.

One thing I hate more than anything is a movie ending that's completely different from what I expected. I loathe movies that end in a manner contrary to what I wanted to see. It doesn't matter if the movie was one of the most cleverly directed features ever if the ending is not up to my standards, I completely dismiss the entire film as useless.

Even when I was young, I would become extremely upset if I were ever interrupted from a pleasant dream. Whenever this happened, I would try my darnedest to fall back asleep and create the ending that I wanted. Sometimes I would even try to create alternate endings to dreams that did not meet my expectation of a suitable experience.  My number one priority was to always create the perfect result.

A few years back, I started working for a company that held extremely high standards.  As part of my probationary period, I had to go through a rigorous training and assessment process.  Here's the thing, I had to complete the training for a job that I didn't apply for.  Because my job required me to interact heavily with the operations team, I had to learn their jobs fully so I could be a better business partner for them.  I remember asking my boss what would happen if I wasn't able to pass the assessment for a job that I didn't even apply for.  Would I be fired?  She literally sidestepped my question because, truthfully, I could have lost my job if things didn't go well.

I was scared to death because I left a comfy position not knowing that my future rested on whether I could learn a completely new position in 8 weeks.  I did the only thing I could do.   I envisioned the best possible outcome.

Basically, before bed and upon waking up, I imaged myself during my final assessment.  I created a mental image of myself smiling and having lots of fun throughout the process and passing with flying colors.  Every image I created was a positive and energizing as possible.  I'm not that good at visualizing but I did it day and night.      When that day finally arrived, I wasn't nervous.  I put in tons of time studying and my mind was at ease.  Others who were taking the same assessment were super nervous.  But I had this sense of calm the entire time.  I was so at peace that I was able to help others with their last minute studying.  During our assessments, I felt completely energized!  At the end of the week-long ordeal, I was given my final score.  Basically, everyone who completes the program was rated as either red, yellow or green.  Receiving a red essentially meant that you weren't fit for the job.  Some would receive a demotion shortly after being classified as "red".  Most people received a yellow which meant that you had a decent grasp on the role but there may be a few things to work on.  A select few received a green.  

When I was told that I was rated a green, I cried actual tears.  It felt so amazing to actually be living out the outcome that I envisioned so many times before.  That day served as a clear reminder that I should always picture my perfect outcome.  

Even now, if my present reality isn't as I would hope for, I create new mental images to define my ideal ending. Without visualization,  you have to accept current results as the only available outcome. That is so far from the truth. What we are now experiencing, is only one possible outcome. Think of your life as a movie with various alternate endings. Your job is to go to the special features section and select an alternate (ideal) ending as another option. 

The main reason why you should even entertain the thought of creating mental images of ideal outcomes is because your brain can not honestly tell the difference between what is real and what is imaginary. Your mind operates in pictures and once it sees a clear picture it subconsciously accepts it as fact. Think about the times when you've had dreams so scary that you awoke with a rapid heartbeat and maybe even a little sweat on your brow. Your mind didn't know that you weren't in actual danger.  Your mind only did what it knows to do which is take mental images as fact and respond accordingly.

Tonight before you fall asleep, or just after you awaken before you get out of bed in the morning, take a few moments to dream while you are still awake. Create vivid pictures of your definition of the most perfect scenarios and let your mind soar. Let your mind fully believe that you are capable of experiencing what you saw and use your emotions to help motivate you to take consistent action towards creating it. 

In a way, you probably do some of this now. The problem with most of us is that we create mental pictures of the worst possible outcome. Today I ask you to use your mental powers for good, not evil, and create the life you've always wanted, both in your mind and in reality.

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How To Eliminate Distressed Dry And Brittle Hair For Good

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