Sunday, May 20, 2018

Ciara & Kenya Moore used the Law of Attraction Principles to Attract Their Mates. Here's How.

ismail Alminda | 12:52 PM
Recently, I came across two articles where celebrity women have mentioned using Law of Attraction techniques to find their husbands.  I'm going to try to tackle this topic in case someone came across their sound bite and wanted to know more about the process.

I'm no expert on using the law of attraction to attract one's ideal partner.  I was already married by the time The Secret movie came out.  But, I've studied the law of attraction over the years and thought I could provide some extra commentary on how to apply this law in dating and courtship.
In the past couple of weeks, I've read interview snippets where both Kenya Moore and Ciara discussed what they did to increase their chances of meeting the men of their dreams.  We don't know the future outcome of their relationships, but for now, both seem to be in happy committed unions with men that make them happy.

The law of attraction states that we attract into our lives outcomes, people, and things that reflect our past/present pattern of thoughts & feelings. I personally find that attracting things is a bit more straightforward than attracting people.  But it's entirely possible.

Here's what Ciara had to say in a recent interview with Essence.

"I think it's really important for women to know exactly what we want and to be clear about it & also be patient." For additional clarity, Ciara wrote down what she wanted to enhance her vision.  In her words, "I'm a believer in seeing, speaking it, and writing it down."

Kenya Moore recently told People Magazine that she's "always used positive visualization to get what she wants." Months before meeting the man of her dreams Kenya went through the process of putting together a vision board which included an image of a wedding, a happy couple, a home and a baby.  Six months later, she met how now husband.
I'm sure many of us are familiar with a vision board.  Heck, most of us probably have one or two laying around.  But how many of us are manifesting big goals within months of pasting a bunch of pictures on a poster board?  To attract her current lifestyle, Kenya had to fully engage in the law of attraction process.

Kenya mentions that her vision board was with her wherever she went. This kinda reminds me of interviews I've heard where people talk about writing down their goals every day.  Kenya kept her vision board close to ensure that her vision stayed top of mind.  The board itself isn't magical but the act of putting one together requires a heightened level of focus on identifying exactly what you want. The hardest part of the law of attraction process is ensuring that we keep our vibration levels up. Sometimes we say we want something but soon lose the intensity around that desire.  Kenya's practice of taking her vision board with her was to ensure that she didn't lose her sense of focus.

I think the greatest benefit of applying the law of attraction in preparing for your next relationship is the clarity you'll gain from the exercise. Whether you're writing it down like Ciara or constructing a visual representation like Kenya, it helps to be crystal clear and what you want. My guess is that neither Ciara or Kenya have applied this level of clarity in previous relationships.  I say this because Kenya's vision relationship board didn't exist recently.  We've seen some of past failed relationships play out on national television.  In early 2018, Ciara stated that "she was making the wrong choices" when it came to relationships.  This leads me to believe that both women were dating without clarity.   It's ok to date, meet new people and have fun.  But just be aware that casual dating and clarity dating are very differnent could lead to opposite outcomes.

When you're clear about what you want, you vibrate with a new energy.  You have a greater understanding of which partners potentially align with your desire and which don't.  Sometimes you gain that clarity from interacting with people who don't reflect what you want. I'm sure this happened in Ciara's case.  She met Future and probably was enamored with his charisma.  If she was clear about her desire to be with someone who wanted a committed relationship, she probably wouldn't have gotten so involved with him.  But that situation really forced her to become clear about what she wanted.  Not long later, she crossed paths with Russell.  Both women met and married their current husbands in a relatively short time period after implementing their LOA techniques.  My guess is that they maintained a high level of intensity around their desire which could account for how quickly they manifested.   Sometimes, when we're single for a while, we tend to let our guard down about what we truly want.  Getting out of an unsuccessful relationship may be the perfect time to try implementing LOA in your dating life because you are very intuned with that you want.

Years before The Secret came out, I ended a long-term, dead-end relationship.  One day, as I walked around a lake, I made a verbal list to God about what I wanted in a future partner.  I eventually met my now husband. We were only just friends at the time but he made his feelings clear about wanting a future with me.  We knew each other for a while before he moved to another state.  Around that time, I decided to start dating casually. The more men I interacted with, the clearer I became about what I did and did not want.  Around that same time, my now husband and I had a heart to heart and began a long distance relationship.  Months later, he moved back and proposed on the day he returned.  The timeline looked something like this: At 23, I ended a five-year relationship. Met my future husband at 24, was friends with him until 26. Married him at 27.   I didn't realize how quickly I met my husband after creating my list until I wrote this post. 

If you want to ensure that you attract potential husbands into your dating life, you must first be clear.  If you desire a long-term/committed relationship, you should quickly determine which of your suitors are aligned with your intentions.  Verbalize what you want, write them down, put pictures on poster board. Do whatever it takes to get clear.  It's also important to stay connected to what you desire because sometimes, we forget when a handsome face or a smooth talker approaches.

If you're dating, you are technically already "attracting" potential mates into your life.  When these interactions are always leading to dead ends, perhaps you can consider fine tuning your vibration so you attract more of what you want.   We know of women who keep attracting the same type of guys over and over.  We also know of those instances where a woman leaves a failed relationship then somehow meets their prince charming.  A guy who's totally unlike that last one.  What's the difference? One woman became crystal clear about what type of man she prefers than dates accordingly.  If your end goal is to attract the type of man you want while believing that a healthy long-term relationship is possible, set your vibration to attract what you desire.

If you want to apply the Law of Attraction in the area of relationships take some time to view many of the "how I manifested my husband" videos on Youtube for inspriation.  Being married isn't the end all be all to life. But if you want a lifelong partner, you might as well try this technique instead of dating without purpose and hoping that you find the right one.


Friday, May 18, 2018

An Easy Night Time Braid Out Routine

ismail Alminda | 9:30 AM

One way to achieve a quick curly do in the morning without sacrificing a ton of time in the morning is to do a braid out overnight. If you have early mornings with kids, hubbies and that ‘I must attend an early morning meeting’, time becomes an ever so precious thing. If you have decided that […]

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Thursday, May 17, 2018

How To Get In The Habit Of Deep Conditioning Weekly

ismail Alminda | 9:35 AM

There has been quite a debate on the effectiveness of deep conditioning for a variety of reasons. Some believe that the penetration that is supposed to happen from leaving conditioner on your hair for hours is quite frankly impossible due to the molecular structures of some of the ingredients in the conditioner. Others think ‘well […]

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Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Are Sulfate Free Shampoos Just A Con?

ismail Alminda | 9:30 AM

Various shampoo bottlesBlack women love a scapegoat. Since hair forums and blogs became popular and we learned from each other exactly how black hair can be grown long, we’ve been looking either for that 1 product that will guarantee us long locks or that 1 evil product that stunted our length retention efforts in the first place. […]

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Staring at a Screen Causes Weight Gain. Here's How.

ismail Alminda | 5:34 AM
One habit that I would absolutely love to change is my nightly routine of scrolling through timelines on my cell phone until I drift off to sleep.  And, every so often, I wake up and immediately grab my phone and catch up on what I missed during slumber.  When I do this, I'm guaranteed to stay up another 2-3 hours before dozing off again.   Even if I total 8 hours of sleep, I still don't feel as rested as I could because of the interruption.

I've heard a few sound bites here and there that we shouldn't check our phones before bed but I never quite listened.  I never paid much attention because I didn't fully understand why this habit was so damaging.  I'm one of those people who are motivated by avoiding negative consequences. Now that I have a better understanding of why screen light is so damaging, I'm fully committed to adjusting my behavior accordingly.

If you care about managing your weight, getting enough beauty sleep, and achieving optimal health, you definitely want to keep reading.
I've only researched this topic for a couple of days so I may have only scratched the surface.  But based on what I've learned so far, artificial blue light is absolutely contrary to a healthy lifestyle.  Inherently, blue light isn't a bad thing.  We actually are exposed to blue light when we're out in the sun.  Blue light sends a signal to our bodies that it's daylight.  You can imagine the havoc this can cause when it's actually 11:00 pm at night but we're sending the body a signal that it's the middle of the day.

This will have a dire impact on our ability to fall asleep. Not just because the light is bright, but blue light is actually messing with our internal body clock.   Because of the effect on our natural rhythm, our body isn't able to release proper levels of melatonin.

My husband is rarely on his cell phone.  If he watches a movie before bed, he often does it in a dark room. Once it's time for him to go to bed, he has absolutely no problem falling asleep.  I, on the other hand, am often on my phone or laptop.  When I go to bed, I bring one or both of the items with me.  He'll make a one-off comment that my phone light bothers him which I often ignore.  To me, the phone was my way of "unwinding" little did I know that I was doing the exact opposite.

Sleep is precious.  Because we do it every night, we sometimes forget the immense importance of getting deep restful sleep each night.  I heard from a neurosurgeon once that our brain actually detoxes itself during sound sleep.  That's serious stuff.  Not to mention all of the other beneficial processes like muscle repair, improved memory, reduced inflammation, less stress, etc.  I didn't even go into the wonderful skin enhancing benefits of sleep.  For instance, did you know that our skin rebalances its hydration levels while we sleep?  Whenever I dealt with hyperactive acne, I could almost guarantee that my sleep was off.  No beauty routine is complete without a well-maintained sleep schedule.

Blue light isn't only impacting us before bed.  When I stare at my laptop, check my phone or turn on an LED light in the house, I'm exposed to artificial blue light.  You might be asking yourself, isn't blue light exposure during the daytime ok?  I wish it was ok but unfortunately, artificial light impacts us both day and night.  One unwanted side effect of artificial blue light exposure is weight gain.

Yes, weight gain.

When I first heard this, I questioned how a light can impact our weight.  The answer to this riddle is found in our hormones.  Weight gain isn't as simple as the "calorie in vs. calorie out" theory that we've all been exposed to.  Basically, what truly impacts our fat storing potential is our insulin sensitivity.  Any time we eat, insulin is released into the blood.  Insulin signals the body to store fat.  If we eat too frequently or if we regularly consume high glycemic foods, our bodies become insulin resistant. When this happens, it won't be long before we start packing on the pounds.  Basically, our blood sugar levels become too high.  To help balance this, our body stores the excess energy in our fat cells.

Before recently, I assumed that insulin was only impacted by what I ate.  You could imagine my surprise when I learned that exposure to artificial blue light impacts our insulin resistance, metabolism and ultimately, our weight.  So, basically, when I spend my last waking hours of the evening in front of a screen, I'm impacting my body's metabolism.  Eating in front of a screen is even worse.  Eating dinner while exposed to blue light before heading to bed is a recipe for weight gain.  This is also true when we reach for our phone first thing in the morning.

What's a girl to do?

I have a few changes that I'll be implementing asap to manage my constant exposure to blue light.  These include:
  • Purchasing a blue light protector for my cell phone & laptop screen.
  • Working on my laptop outdoors or in natural light when possible.  (Sunlight includes both red + blue light.  This balances the light exposure so you aren't consuming blue light alone).
  • Eating away from a screen.  They say that we eat more while mindlessly surfing online so this can really help impact our weight and metabolism.
  • Instead of scrolling before bed, Maybe I'll do some meditation, journaling or light stretching.  Something that doesn't require me to look at the screen. 
  • Spend less time indoors in a blue light environment.  I'm home for most of the day and I can function pretty well via natural light. I'll avoid turning on lights unless it's necessary.
  • They also sell glasses that block blue light. I may give them a try to see if they help with my eye strain.
I've been more conscious about maintaining a healthy lifestyle but one area of concern was around my eyes.  I've been feeling the effects of eye fatigue and was convinced that this would come back to bite me in the long run.  I don't wear glasses so I know that my eye fatigue is directly related to holding a screen up to my face all the time.  

Honestly, I would love to become less addicted to my phone.  Altering my habit will lead to higher productivity and a better feeling of well being.  Quitting cold turkey may be a difficult task but because I'm aware of the benefits and negative impacts of my behavior, I'm willing to do what it takes. 



Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Lessons To Be Learned From Naomi Campbell’s Hairline

ismail Alminda | 9:30 AM

Naomi Campbell in bikini and bald hairlineOh Naomi Naomi. It’s hard to believe that you are 42 with that fabulous figure and lovely face. The hair on the other hand is another matter. I don’t do celebrity ‘look-at-how-terrible-she-looks’ type articles as a matter of principle but I’m compelled to say something about the recent pictures of Naomi’s hairline. This picture was […]

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Monday, May 14, 2018

“White” Products Are Great On “Black” Hair

ismail Alminda | 9:35 AM

I’m sure I’m not the first person to have the race conversation. You know, the one where a family member or close friend asks what you’ve been using on your hair because it’s looking great! Once you start mentioning Herbal Essence or Aussie Moist, the conversation comes to a grinding halt. “You use those white folks products […]

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